Eagle my always friend..she was next door three years older had a stroke and is paralysed left side..speech too..she lives alone unmarried.(An unclaimed gem!)she has always been there..at my back..we did youth work..she had the boys..me the girls..she is much loved by the community.
I like you am devestated at my friends hurt..but within I hold joy..that she is in recovery..that I can visit and help whether she returns home or to assisted living..if it is a complex then I will strive as always to trouble shoot so that her life is kind.
loving a friend means either we hurt or they hurt for us..my friend has supported me so often...she is the first person I phone when we have happy events or sad..
she has sucessfully beaten breast cancer..will a smile each day..

so sorry your friend is ill Eagle but it sounds like she has a good team around her..and she has you.