Can you do something wonderful for yourself on the day of the wedding..people can only hurt us if we let them do so..
and anyone who needs to hurt another is best shut out of your life.when we feel low then things and bad memories hurt so by raising your own well being it gives you strength.When you are strong arrows dont penetrate.
Vent all you need to..the space here is not on ration and some of the posters can set new ideas afloat.

I have places I go..which buffer me against the trials of life..then visulise these places in order to relax..

Could you connect with your brother and spend time with him even for a coffee.seperate from any issue that exists..just like you sat at the table so often in past years..not discussing any issue just time...and the coffee..