I didn't respond, Chatty, because I already know how you will feel about my answer. I passionately believe that there is no such thing as anyone being "beyond redemption". I don't have the time, wisdom, energy or inclination to judge anyone anywhere for anything...I have enough to tend to in my own heart and choices. It's enough for me that God knows all, knows the heart of each person and knows all the "why's" of their lives and choices...He created even those you would condemn and He calls each one His son or His daughter...I've experienced His mercy first-hand. And I trust His ability to deal with anyone anyway He chooses.
When you don't like a thing, change it.
If you can't change it, change the way you think about it.