Julie, Nancy and Misfire AMEN TO THAT you are so right about relationships. Misfire I can't imagine wat it was like for a little girl growing up in a house with a dying sibbling and sad parents. You must have been cheated out of so many of the nurturing elements we all need so as children. I hope you have since those awful days received tons of love from those around you. There are so many form of child abuse even when it is unintentional....God Bless.