It takes two for a relationship to develop and in no way should we ever shoulder the responsibility for how that relationship develops. Those of us who are muturers and 'fixers' take on much more than we should. It's difficult to step away from that type of behavior after having it ingrained in us for so long. I'm 43 years old and I've finally learned that I'm not the only person who has to work on a friendship. I have a life too, and I shouldn't put mine on hold waiting for someone else to join in. Life is too short and I'm not going to live in the 'what if' world anymore. I'm living in the present and it's all about now.