According to Dr. Phil (and Oprah) and especially ME AND MY OPINION all of the above constitutes cheating because whenever he takes the time away from you and your personal intimacy he is cheating you, thusly cheating on you. Tell me, would it hurt any less to know your husband is actually holding another woman in his arms or just wanting to and thinking of her or them when with you, or NOT being with you because he's mentally with them. Sick I know but then remember I've done phone sex (calls) with many many of these sicko's and hear what they think...Ladies you would be surprised NO, shocked is a better word here. Men really are pigs, they really are... [Eek!]