I agree there is definitely something missing within themselves if men/women need to go outside their marriages for sexual pleasures. I also think something is missing within the marriage.

I'm fortunate because I'm in a good marriage, but I think it's pitiful when people can't be themselves with their spoouses. Sex within a marriage can be anything the couple wants it to be. If there is something one partner wants in their sex life, they should be able to ask for it from their partner. There shouldn't have to be another outlet if the couple agrees to outdo one another with kindness. The desire should be to please the partner.

You ladies know I'm PollyAnna, but that's my two cents.