I hear what you are saying Scorpio...I only have one son...3 daughters...but only one son...he is 29 and still unmarried...and really a bright light in my life...I would be crushed if the girl he marries takes him away from us...so I can truly truly feel your pain...the fact that your DIL lives close to her family and seems to be ignoring your son's need to be with his family would anger me as well...it's ok to feel all of the things you feel...you are human...and you love and miss your child and his children...I think the whole situation is terrible...I wish your DIL would have some kind of an Epiphany and see how lucky her children are to have 2 sets of grandparents...she does sound like she is very self centered...that doesn't make it easy or fair for you...