I'm with you Dotsie. I don't believe any person would ever bring this pain on themselves. I mean, why would they?

I'm not sure if I ever mentioned this but my sister was married to a doctor for 25 years and they met in church as teenagers. After all those years, she discovers he's having an affair with a man AND is HIV Positive! Luckily, my sister wasn't infected but she reacted just like it had been another woman. Very painful time for her and still is. She's still angry that he "tricked her" but I believe he didn't. In the 60's there wasn't such a thing as gay. You were a queer and honestly, none of us REALLY believed that people actually did that sort of thing with the same sex. So, I think my ex brother in law really tried to be straight. I think that's why he went to church, trying to find a spiritual answer to his problem. I think he finally just gave up. My opinion anyway. But, I can understand how my sister feels too. In truth, she wasn't that happy with him anyway. He was a bossy, control freak.