I compare marriage to strawberry shortcake! You can put all the icecream, strawberries and whipped cream you want on top -- but if the cake is bad -- it won't taste so good...

Test the "cake" of your marriage and find out if it is solid and fresh and good. If it is, you may just have some rotten strawberries on it that can be plucked off and thrown away.

That being said, trust is one of the ingredients in the cake -- so perhaps some real soul searching needs to happen on both sides. I hope this works out for you (either way).