I am still trying to determine IF it is something that is WRONG??? On one hand, I feel that it is because it bothers me - and I am one half of this relationship/marriage and have been for over 30 years.

And yet the media today, including movies, books, TV and the internet treat this activity (PORN) so casually.

Our sex life has improved since confronting him back in May - or I wonder if it coincides with our children leaving the nest ??? I just feel devalued - and think that is enough to ask if he feels passion and desire for ME- or does it take the nude pictures for him to get turned on??

Declaring his love for me should be enough, right? And yet, somehow, I feel like an old pair of favorite shoes that he loves. I want to feel like he WANTS me in the bedroom and really all of the time - I can't compete with the models' bodies on the internet ( I am not in bad shape and can still pass for a much younger woman than my birthdays add up to)!!

As anyone can tell, this subject is gnawing at me.