DJ
I suppose anything is possible, but , in this case it really is work that has him away from home. And my husband is not distant to me, in fact all the little indicators of hand holding, hugging, kissing me goodbye every time he leaves the house are ever present.
I know, I know.....I don't want to be like so many women and have a blind eye to the possibility he is having an affair. In my gut, I don't have any sense that is the case - I feel 99.99% sure of that. (Yes, I guess you have to leave it open that anything is possible).

I am not unhappy in my marriage, just distressed with the porn. I have decided when the time is right for a discussion on the topic with him, I will use some of the input I have rec'd on this forum. Specifically, that viewing porn is considered by some (Dr. Phil etc.) to be a form of cheating on your spouse.