Danita,

I am so on the same page with you! In fact after my first discovery of the porn that my husband was viewing, I sat back and really looked at myself and our relationship.

I confess that I had not always put him first - with children at home it was easier to fall into the trap of doing for them all of the time; and whatever was leftover ,was what I had to give to my husband. Not a good regime, I knowl

So, that is when I made the decision to put his needs first - pay more attention to him (flirt , and be overall a better wife and partner) and US - the couple. It has paid off, I think, in many wonderful ways. So, I was very disappointed and saddened when I made the more recent discoveries of his porn viewing.

Maybe old habits are hard to give up?

I don't want to make this an issue that comes between us, however, I do plan to address it with him- AGAIN. I am lucky that my husband is very considerate and I think he will understand my distress once I make my feelings extremely clear!~

And thanks to all of you.....from almost every entry I have taken away some bit of insight to the situation- or about myself. I feel more empowered and secure to make my marriage the best it can be!