Thanks for the advice. I know that I shouldn't allow myself to get in the middle. I was critized and controlled by my mother so I can relate to what my Dad is going through. I have asked my mother before not to talk about my Dad. I've explained that it is difficult for me to hear about it. Her response was "oh but it's ok for you to complain about your son's drug problems, but when I have to talk to you about your father you don't want to listen" something like that. My son was a drug addict for years, put me through hell, but I went for counselling and joined a group with other parents of drug addicts. She asked me about him and I told her. I really don't think it's the same thing at all but she won't get it. If I say I don't want to talk about it because it upsets me or whatever, then she will just give me the silent treatment for weeks and say that she can't talk to me and I'm just like my father. It's really a no win situation. I am going to talk less to her though. She calls me every day which is too much. If she doesn't hear from me one day she calls to see why I haven't called. Anyway this post should be in the parent section. I just found it relevent to the topic on men watching porn. Thanks for listening.
Kate