I actually thought about the getting back thing. My dad is so sick of my mom controlling his every move that I think he is trying to get back at her.
Anyway I am going to try to talk to her about not talking to me about personal issues. I am almost 50 and still can't be open and honest with my mother and it's time to stop walking on egg shells around her. I will get the silent treatment for sure. She thinks by not talking to me she's hurting me but she's really just hurting herself by behaving this way.
My dad watching porn is something I don't really want to know about and wish I didn't. As for my mom venting on this site, to punish my dad and make him feel bad she refuses to use the computer anymore. Another way that she is hurting herself not my Dad. Cutting off her nose to spite her face. She really doesn't get it.
As for taking back the computer there is no way I can do that as it was a gift and they know I have a computer. He doesn't just look at porn either. He is from Europe and catches up on the news in his birth country.
I guess I'm torn and feel the need to listen as they are older now and won't be around forever. I had alot of resentment towards my Mom for years but now figure I needed to let all that go and except the fact that they did what they knew at the time. I just make a real effort to have boundaries with my children and keep the lines of communication open. I don't want to repeat the pattern as it screwed me up for years.
Kate