Katebcca, sorry to say it but this sounds like one time when someone refusing to speak to you would be a good thing. As far as you father looking at whatever he's looking at, it's his business and as I said earlier it isn't like he can jump up and run out looking for a hooker. Your mom sounds like a real piece of work, shes made herself miserable and wants everyone else to be miserable to...all you can do is love them if even from afar.