Kay5..When someone quits the group like ladybug did, they can go in and delete all their posts which leaves gaps and it appears your answering someone elses and I was responding to some of the missing now, ladybug posts and..YES phone sex is definitely porn, no doubt about it. I have managed to gather more information about relationships or lack of same from not only women but from the men themselves and have a multitude of material for my book. Plus I can and do give qualified advice from the secrets and thoughts of the men I talk with. Men of different races, backgrounds, ages and situaions. Wealthy men, poor men, single men, gay men but MOSTLY MARRIED MEN. Who better to ask advice than from a woman privie to the thoughts and dreams of these cheating losers. I make no excuse for what I do, it pays very well and gives me the opportunity to learn and then to council from what I have learned. I have fallen victim to porn as well in the past and hate it for what it can become and create between a man and woman. People that know me know that 'phone actress' is what I do not who I am and I apologize to no one. I have been looked to by psychologist friends for advice with clients that would not be forthcoming about porn, about their feelings and gulit for the failure of a marriage. Anyway its complicated and not relevent here. I do other much nicer work as well as a freelance writer, foster numerous animals for the SPCA and have my own RE business. I am a Jill of all trades so to speak. Good question by the way!

[ October 11, 2005, 08:34 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]