Well said Kay5!

Where I was once not so sure porn is a form of infidelity I am convinced of it now.

My very close friend called two weeks ago frantic and near tears as she recounted seeing "teen" websites listed on her husband's computer screen. She went ballistic because he's been "lame" in the bedroom and acts as if he's accomodating her. He's even refused her offers to pleasure him. She finds this an abnomral response on his part and I agree with her. He's acting contrite and saying he's sorry, he loves her etc., etc. We both agree he's just sorry he got caught. She says that when he stays away from this trash he's normal again but she no longer trusts his word that he's going to stay away from it. She asked me, "how do I compete with that?" She means the young, beautiful bodies he's looking at. I said, "you don't." This has been going on for ten years with them. I think she stays for the sake of their almost ten year old daughter. Since she has a well-paying job and actually is the main bread winner I told her she might start considering looking around at condos in the area. She supported this lazy man when he was laid off from a job.

They're going on a "romantic" getaway in which she said might be the deciding factor on what to do next. She admits she no longer finds him sexually attractive simply because of his penchant for viewing porn and how this is seriously affecting their marriage.