I want to add something here. I just caught my husband "googling" porn sites...again...and one of my first thoughts was to blame myself, because I don't "want it" as often as he does
(he would literally do it every night if I was willing, he's never said no). Then I realized something. I've known him for almost 30 years and he's always liked porn, whether we were having sex every night or not! So it is not my fault. He is so immature in the relationship department.
I think I am going to try a separation. I've wanted to so many times, about always feel guilty
about following through.