Smile it's interesting that you would ask the question that if my husband loved me the way Christ loved the church, would he desecrate that love by bringing porn into it. My priest said the same thing yesterday! He asked if I thought Jim loved me (or the kids) in a sacrificial way, like Jesus loves His bride and I could not answer him. I wanted to say no, but I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Number5, I also have viewed submission to my husband as Godly and good. I always tell my kids that he is the head of the house and have tried to treat him that way. But when something like this happens, it feels as if satan is the head of my house and it sickens me.
God is allowing me to suffer this, so I must offer it up for the good of my husband's soul...even if he doesn't seem concerned about it.