While reading Corinthians this morning, I came across the following in my interpretation for Corinthians 7:3-5.

Sexual temptations are difficult to withstand because they appeal to the normal and natural desires God has given us. Marriage provides God's way to satisfy these natural sexual desires and to strengthen the partners against temptation. Married couples have the responsibility to care for each other: therefore, husbands and wives should not withhold themselves sexually from one another, but should fulfill each other's needs and desires.

I know Bluebird is away, but this shares inforamtion that she was looking for.

I guess the question lies within the precise meaning of fulfilling each other's needs and desires within your marriage. That is different for everyone.