I'm not dealing with it that well, really. I keep feeling resentment and anger against him (which I have felt for years but didn't know why). Now I know what is keeping us from being the kind of married couple that God wants. It's an evil spirit, really. If he said to me "I have this problem and I need help" it would be a different story. Every time I catch him he tries to lie and make excuses or act hurt that I don't believe him. I'm tired of it. But I have 8 kids and 6 are still at home, so I can't throw them all into turmoil. God will guide me...