wow, everyone, thanks for the advise. Well, he is not talking to me, is mad at me saying I had nerve to spy. Well, right now I am leaning towards leaving. Life is too short. Been married only 1 year. His kids and my kids are grown. This is a big slap in my face. How does that saying go, "fool me once, shame on you, but fool me twice, shame on me. I hope you guys will still be here when I do make this move. I am nervous, not sure why, it only has been one year. But, I did give up my townhouse, my job, moved 1 hour away. Did find a better job, but now need to learn where the safest apartments are. Boy, I do feel like a fool. At 51 years old and got into this mess. Well, he wined and dined me. Fresh roses, and told me everyday how beautiful I wish. Sure, just to get me here so he can go back to his old, sick ways.