Well ladies it has been some time since I have been to the open forum - although, I have chatted with a few privately.
Since I started this topic, thought maybe I would give an update on my situation.
Things have never been better!! Surprisingly, I guess for some to believe?
My husband and I had to have another 'conversation' after he took a business trip and I found a charge for a porn movie on his hotel bill!-found this totally by accident - I had stopped the surveillance - because he really has given up the internet porn all together.
His reason for the movie - curiosity ! Still don't buy that as an excuse - but, hey, I think they all use that one as well as...."I am just looking....nothing wrong as long as I don't go any farther than that!"
In any event - it has all had a good result (so far) and we are more in sync than we have been in years! He said he now realizes (fully) the negative impact this has had on me and us as a couple and he promises to steer clear of all porn activity.

To China, maybe your husband can't quit without more time and effort. Is he clear that his behavior hurts you deeply? And what will he say when all your fam. and friends find out the reason you had to leave him-Porn Addiction? It is hard to teach an old dog new tricks----but isn't impossible. He does have to be the one to change - but he has to want to keep you and your marriage as a priority!!! Nothing less would be acceptable. Maybe your relationship is too 'young' to weather the storm - and that is sad - but only you know the reality of what you are willing to go through in your marriage. Be careful and not too reactionary in your decision making process.

[ February 09, 2006, 04:34 PM: Message edited by: Kay5 ]