Suzieq, etal,
I agree with most of what you've said as far as the problem with infidelity being equally distributed with equal responsibility, but I do have a problem with one thing you said.

Just because a woman is post menopausal, doesn't mean she is "dried up". I'm post menopausal and have the sex drive of a 20 yr. old. Everything works just fine. I enjoy sex very much and have never been attracted to the guys portrayed in porno films. I've seen many of them and am totally unimpressed with rippling abs.

There is a very small window of attraction for me and it includes a man at least 6' tall, balding, with glasses, facial hair (beard & moustache) and hair on his chest. To my taste a man like that is a real 'hottie', Add to that a tough, strong personality combined with the tenderness of a child and the capacity to love unconditionally with a good sense of humor and I'm on board.

People are all different, at different ages, different times of their lives, we're all fearfully and wonderfully made. We're way too uptight about our sexuality. There are very few restrictiions regarding sex: keep it between one man and one woman in marriage under God's blessing and don't refuse one another unless its for spiritual reflection and treat each other as Christ treated the Church and was willing to die for it. Commit to make it last and respect each other. It ain't that hard folks.