Dear Sugaree:
One of the things my husband and I have made clear to our three sons is: If you get a girl pregnant you better be ready take full responsibility !!!

Thou it is sometimes "easier said than done" your son & this girl need to step up to the plate instead of being a burden to you. It is up to you whether they ABUSE YOU or not!

Where I grew up they say (and I'm translating here...) " some mistake kindness for foolishness". Some see the great & kind heart you have and TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU.

You might do a greater good to them both by helping them take responsibility for their actions. In the long run, your son and maybe both, might even thank you for it!

I pray that this helps in some way!!!

You can always help them out without having to be responsible for them.

When we have more than one kid... what we put up with one, we will have to put up with the next one too By setting an example now with this one, you will ensure that the next time around they will think twice!

Hope this helps. Hugs!

[ August 17, 2004, 02:07 PM: Message edited by: Songbird ]