Is hate ever healthy? Seems like there can be a healthy expression of anger, even rage, but isn't hatred always destructive-especially for the one who holds it.

It sounds as if you and your step daughter are locked in something like the age old battle described by Sophocles in 400 B.C. He wrote about the conflicts of female children with their mother and male children with their father in his classic plays, "Electra" and "Oedipus." That innate competion probably escalates between step parents and same sex children.

I hope you can allow yourself to feel the anger you certainly deserve to feel and let it go without harboring hatred. Hate will only destroy you.
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