Wow. G sounds very immature and selfish. At what point do they grow up and stop relying on others to do things for them? Maybe when they're forced into it?

I used to be the buffer...the go between my husband and his sons. They would come to me and ask me to talk to their dad about things before they did or to soften the blow for them when they finally did approach him themselves. They would call me and talk about problems, school, work, everything. All of that can change, as I sadly learned, in one flash. Now, my birthday is ignored, Christmas...any other special occassion. But, I'm okay with it. I really am. I have learned that I need a certain amount of dignity and self-respect to operate in my husband's family. Time will only tell what the outcome is.

I'm proud of your husband for standing by you. A big kiss for him!