I agree with Casey. You must see your own value before anyone worthy of you, will love you properly. I think men can sense when a woman "needs" someone else to make her feel worthy and loved, and the men with that kind of radar, are not the ones you want!
I just relaized when you said Katie was on the west coast, you meant Florida! Here I thought they sent her to CA...I'm slow.
AA and Al-anon will both serve you well. You will get the love, understanding and support you need from people who will NOT look down on you, as some of your family has done.
Big healing ((HUGS)) for you, Number5, aka Bliss, aka Step1 (how's that for a name?)