She called you THAT and your husband didn't do anything? Good grief. This is really bad.

I don't think it's that he doesn't want to hurt her, he doesn't want to make his life uncomfortable while allowing all of this to burden you, while you're the bad guy. So wrong.

I'd insist that he go to a counselor with you...like right now. I wouldn't take no for an answer. Tell him the marriage depends on it. And, I would not stay home with her while he goes off fishing or whatever. Tell him he takes her with him. You've gotta get strong on this because it seems like you're being walked over like a door mat.

I know how hurtful and depressing this is. And, I know you don't have to live like this either. I'd sit my husband down and tell him he's got some serious decisions to make and it's now or never. For him to allow his daughter to treat you like this is not acceptable. Ever.