Hi Bliss (5),
You said:
"I like decorating a home for another person and myself, cooking for the two of us or a whole group! I really enjoy being with another person who I feel intimate with, who knows me and "gets" me and I them."

You can still decorate a home for yourself and enjoy the accomplishment. When you cook for yourself (and your granddaughter!), make it special, with candles and a prayer of Thanksgiving for being alive. Invite friends over to cook for -- better yet, have a pot luck! What fun! Dotsie is right -- women friends can 'get you,' too. Often better than a man. Are you over 50? Join the Red Hat Society -- they are made just for fun! Or if you aren't 50 yet, join the Red Hats as a Pink Hat Lady!

I still don't have the sense that you have gotten to any support groups near where you live. It's a really important step. Going it alone, or looking for a man to shore you up just so you don't have to spend time with yourself, is simply bad news right now.

As always -- take what you like and leave the rest!

BIG HUGGSS