Bubbles.....You are sitting on a powder keg!
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome can not be cured.....and I've seen it happen where what you fear has come true.
I see you're from Washington State also.
It happened in our state many years ago.
I'm originally from Northern Calif. and it also happened in my home town.
Please......get some outside help.
I'm sure there is someone here at BWS that knows much more about this than myself.
All I can do is welcome you to BWS, and I know you will get help from these wonderful women.
Lynne