You know, I think that is how I've managed to live this long through my whole life, but especially when it gets really bad. I learned to take time for myself. I also work out of my home, so it's great until he's suspended for 45 days!! LOL I do take pretty good care of myself and some days I just sit and do nothing! For a long time early on in this, I would ignore "me"...blood pressure would just soar, I was angry all the time...I realized I was letting him control me and I had to learn to walk away. So, I started taking those little things for myself. He doesn't own me.