Bonnie
I was there, a long time ago, spoiled and guilty step children.

Retrospectively, I wonder about these commetns and questions:

They are children. They don't know it, but they are. The world is all about them. Are YOU grown up enough to know that the world is not about YOU? (I wasn't!)

The relationship between me and guy was never enough. I needed to please. Anyone. Are you trying to please him, rather than doing what is right for YOU?

When I was mad at guy, I got mad at his family. They were okay, he was messed up. And I was messed up. And it was easier to blame them, than it was myself, or even him. What are YOU responsible for in this mess?

These are only questions, not accusations. And forgive me if I have overstepped my bounds.