Browser,

Several years ago a friend of ours passed away. He didn't have any special church and hadn't attended one for years. His children were 18 and 20 or so. He was divorced and alone.

His son and daughter were with him when he passed at home. It fell to me to plan a memorial service for him as there was no money to do anything else. The children had to borrow the money to cremate him.

So, I played some nice music and everyone just got up and took turns telling stories about Dave and how he affected their lives. The most amazing thing about this service was the people attending were mostly in their late teens or early twenties.

His children seemed to be much better after we had the service because it gave them closure. I never thought in my wildest dreams I would ever plan and do a memorial/funeral service. So, my best to you and I believe that just telling how you loved and felt about your loved one is the best to do. It frees the sadness and helps you remember the good times.
Best to you!
Sandpiper