Browser, I am sorry to hear of the loss of three family members. How tragic. Do you have other living family members?

As usual, you have gotten some excellent advice. Another thought might be to find a poem about death online. There are lots of beautiful ones out there. I bet you could find one that would give you and your guests peace.

Since experiencing the sudden death of my mother-in-law two eeks ago, I can assure you that there will be a trememdous feeling of releif and closure once this service is behind you. I just prayed for a lovely service that you feel will honor your loved ones. I can tell it's important to you.