NewLeaf,
I add my prayers. I enjoy corresponding with Katie, too. She's a love and seems to be doing o.k. I owe her a letter and will write soon.

A thought came into my head (along with the slew of them that are always there)! When you finally ditch this bozo, you will have space in your life for something wonderful to enter. As long as you keep hanging on to him, in whatever way, you aren't allowing the space for something new, because he's taking it all up!

Another great al-anon saying: You are allowing him to take up space in your head rent-free!

Have a good one.