Di, I have to ask this, if you ladies are unable to talk about your issue and we are not suppose to discuss our children/grandchildren, what are we suppose to talk about to one another. I bet in that situation you'd be able to cut the tension in the room with a dull knife. I agree with your last sentence however...
Unless you've walked in someones moccasins!
Thats a two way street I believe. I think at all times we need to be kind and thoughtful especially when someone may be hurting....
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