Thank you, Dotsie. I know you were there once.

If an "issue' does not fit into the 'pattern" of a 'normal' life, people have to say SOMETHING!! Or advise something.

A few verses I have found to be helpful to me are...

Job 6:24
“Teach me, and I will hold my tongue;Cause me to understand wherein I have erred.

Proverbs 21:23

23 He who guards his mouth and his tongue
keeps himself from calamity."


I know I am guilty of "letting my tongue go" in many other instances of life, so I am not without a calamitous tongue either! And I do my very best to be educated.

It's just that our lives are so "abnormally" different from mostly everyone elses. It can be difficult for others to understand, for instance, why we have five dogs! And a cat!

Or why we cannot attend baby showers and just "get over it"; attend children's birthday parties; sit in church as a newborn is dedicated to the Lord; observe what we call "baby worshipping"; ogle over someone's many grandchildren's photo albums etc etc. etc.

It all hurts deeply and forever. I cannot see myself acting happily that I am childless. i will NEVER get over the emptiness felt of never having bore a child, my own flesh and blood.

Even the bible says:

Proverbs 30, 15-16

15 "The leech has two daughters.
'Give! Give!' they cry.
"There are three things that are never satisfied,
four that never say, 'Enough!':

16 the grave, the barren womb,
land, which is never satisfied with water,
and fire, which never says, 'Enough!'