Eagle Heart - I decided to delete my post - It sounded to "preachie" or "brow beating" and it wasn't meant to be that at all

I just tend to come on strong sometimes - sorry

I hear you about inlaws but sometimes you just have to set some boundaries - if the inlaws don't like it - oh well - as long as you and hubby are on the same page about your traditions - that's all that really matters

This year is all about your brother - next year will take care of itself