""The best way to find
yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others."
---Mahatma (Mohandas) Gandhi
This time of year, we can get caught up in "all things me."
I have to shop. I better clean this. I must cook such and such which is so and so's favorite. I better run and get more--do I have enough ____(fill in the blank).
This year I recommend we change our attitudes from servitude to servanthood. If we feel like the martyrs, it's no fun. However, if we consider what we are doing as our gift to others, it changes things. Then we are thinking happy thoughts about our loved ones while preparing. My wish is that we can all play this little mind game because it will surely lift our spirits.
And while we're at it, why don't we ask for help? When the chores are split among family members and friends, there is a sense of camaraderie. There's a feeling that everyone is pitching in and our spirits are lifted because we're all in this together.
This issue is packed with gems. Be sure you use them to help your live a more passionate midlife.
I wish everyone a Thanksgiving that leaves you feeling grateful and appreciated.
Onward with grace,
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THE BOOMER HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE
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The main character, Charlie has been drunk so often and disappointed his daughter so many times that she doesn't invite him to her wedding. He even fails at his suicide. Or does he? When his deceased mother returns to love him unconditionally for one more day, he's not quite sure what's going on.
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Ah, remember the smells of Thanksgiving? Those pumpkin pies baking in the oven, the turkey and dressing, the DESSERTS! Or maybe your favorite memory isn't food at all. Does it include lively "after dinner" conversations and stories that seem to take on a life of their own? Do they seem to grow with each passing year? Let yourself wander back to the tradition of family dinners and tall tales. Give us your favorite Thanksgiving memory. Paint us a picture with words that will have our mouths watering and hearts full of family, friends, and fun. Send us your story by entering our contest and win prizes!
Deadline: November 30, 2007
Entry Fee: none
Share your story with us and win prizes! For guidelines visit us at BOOMER WOMEN SPEAK
Winner of the AUGUST- SEPTEMBER Boomer Women Speak Writing Contest was Mary Anne Hahn with her essay, My Butterfly Year. To read Mary Anne's story, click HERE!
NABBW DECEMBER TELESEMINAR --
Boomer Tech Skills
Thursday, December 6, 2007
7:00 PM EST
Helen Gallagher, Founder of Computer Clarity will be offering a one hour teleseminar on boomer technical skills. She launched Computer Clarity, a software consulting and training business in 1996 after a long career in executive positions at Jim Beam Brands, Envirodyne Industries, and AT&T.
Spend an hour with us, getting comfortable with technology. Besides having fun, here are ten things you'll learn on the call:
1. Opportunities for taking classes online - language, writing, starting a business
2. Shopping - internet safety, dealing with reputable vendors, keeping good (paperless) records
3. Top tech toys for kids
4. 25 words on the nuts & bolts of internet safety
5. We can't move ahead if we don't stay current
6, The seven essential email skills
7. Avoid the teenager crutch
8. Choose your best time to learn
9. Selecting software
10. Have confidence in yourself - you know more than you think
Mark you calendar now for this "learn it all" teleseminar, and we hope you'll join us!
NABBW NOVEMBER TELESEMINAR
Working From Home -
The Modern Woman's Divorce Guide for Boomer Women
Helene Taylor, President and Founder of The Modern Woman's Divorce Guide hosted this information-packed teleseminar for the NABBW members. If you missed this teleseminar, visit the NABBW Member ONLY page which provides links to all our past teleseminars.
If you are unable to attend any of our seminars, or if you prefer to hear them at your leisure, then visit the NABBW and sign in on our Member ONLY page which provides links to all our past teleseminars. As an added benefit for our members, you can now choose to listen to these teleseminars, or to open the PDF version and read the entire Teleseminar.
These are great to listen to while you are working or playing online. Just another benefit of NABBW!
BOOMER BOOK REVIEWS
We are happy to review member's books, products and services. This is a service that is FREE of CHARGE to NABBW members. Please email us if you are interested in seeing a review of your book, product, or service.
NOTE: Once your book has been submitted, please allow ample time for the book to be read and reviewed. Books and products sent for reviews will not be returned.
Tracie Peterson, Allison Bottke and Dianne O'Brien
Bethany House Publishing
Reviewed by by Dotsie Bregel, www.nabbw.com
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If you're a boomer and still feel like you have to do it all, think again. While this is something we were told as young women, these three authors share that we can't do it all without something suffering.
Written from a biblical perspective, they share honest and practical stories that will help ease your pain of having to be all things to all people. Recognizing God's desire for us to take adequate time for ourselves so we can live balanced lives, awakens us to the fact that it's healthy to set boundaries at home, work and in the community. You will receive permission to say no and make choices while considering your own joy factor because you deserve to be joyful. This is a practical book worth reading and sharing with our daughters.
Don't Call Me Mother
Linda Joy Myers
Reviewed by by Melinda Cianos
Buy this book!
In this healing memoir, Linda Joy Myers fits together the jagged and irregular pieces of her childhood in an effort to mend her spirit. Images are beautifully crafted (through the use of prose that are both poetic and rich) of a life that was riddled with abuse, neglect and abandonment. She discovers that the same pattern of abuse has plagued the women in her family for generations. As an accomplished musician and writer, Myers is masterful at artistic expression.
She allows the reader into her troubled world---we feel her devastation each time she is left behind by her mother. The scenes of little Linda at the tender age of four, standing at the train station sending her mother off yet again---the high-pitched whistle of the train echoing her exhaustion, loneliness and misery---are gut-wrenching. The reader wants to rush in and rescue her, help her understand, and move her away from the dysfunction that threatens to ruin her. However, in the very next sentence we witness her miraculously bouncing back on her own. We wonder how she does it; how she is able to taste the sweetness of anything that life has to offer when her world is colored by chaos and destruction, but she does. We love and admire her for it. She carries us to the very end of it all and we are moved to understand that she is going to be okay; that we will be okay.
Linda Joy Myers is a superb writer and her offering, Don't Call Me Mother, is a gift. She has allowed herself healing through her words and exploration; she presents us with a means to travel on our own healing journey. Her book imparts love and forgiveness in its rawest form. Do not miss the opportunity to experience it for yourself.
Got Teeth? A Survivor's Guide: How to keep your teeth or live without them!
By Saundra Goodman
Reviewed by Georgia Richardson, www.queenjawjaw.com
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If you think reading a book on dental care will make your eyes glaze over-think again.
Got Teeth? A Survivor's Guide was informative, most educational, and very entertaining. Saundra Goodman has combined years of research with her own personal journey through periodontal disease which resulted in the loss of half of her own teeth and her only option, dentures. Think you know all you need to know as far as good oral hygiene is concerned? Again I say-think again.
For instance, here's a little something I learned from reading Got Teeth? A Survivor's Guide:
Fact number one: Did you know that gum disease is a leading cause of heart attacks? And did you also know that it is now the second leading risk factor for them behind only smoking?
Fact number two: Baking soda is actually very abrasive and can ruin the enamel on your teeth
These are just a couple of health factors among many buried within the pages of this very educational, very informative, and even humor-filled manuscript turned reference guide for me. I actually read this book twice!
I want to add that I was astonished, yet fascinated at the different cultures approaches to dental care throughout history. Included are the Chinese, Romans, (I won't give away the Chinese, Babyloians, or the Egyptian's early beliefs, but it involved live mice, donkeys, and other things!), and the Phoenicians, just to name a few. Were you aware that the Chinese invented the modern bristle toothbrush in the '40's because they believed that "tooth worms" invaded their mouths? Yet another historical fact; ancient dentists paid soldiers to bring them the teeth of a dead soldier from the battlefield so that they could have a never-ending supply of teeth for research.
For every adult who wants to learn the importance of good oral hygiene and how it can affect one's overall health, and importantly, if you can say yes to having a history of dental problems, unexplained bad breath, or bleeding gums and would like to know more about preventive maintenance, then pick up a copy of Got Teeth? A Survivor's Guide.
Is dental care important? Got teeth?-Want to keep them?
How to Not Stress Thanksgiving
By Barbara E. Friesner
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. All Americans can celebrate it, we can all get together as a family, give thanks for the many blessings in our lives, and eat!-all without the stress of finding the "perfect" gift or fear of political correctness!
Unfortunately, however, knowing that this might be the last Thanksgiving with an aging loved one can produce enormous pressure to make the holiday especially significant.
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Do you ever wonder?
By Robin Miller
Do you have a daughter; granddaughter or a friend who you think might be involved in an abusive relationship with an intimate partner?
There may be real cause to worry. According to a national survey, twenty-two percent of women 18 and over will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. One of the red flags is a partner who is possessive. Young girls are particularly vulnerable. In the beginning of a relationship, they may mistake possessiveness for caring. Initially it may make them feel loved and special. What you need to watch for if you are worried about your friend or loved one is a sign or signs that her partner is isolating her.
Continue reading at this link: More from Robin
Feng Shui Organizing- Use the "Natural Forces of the Universe" to Organize Your Life
By Sheri McConnell
What is Feng Shui?
When translated into English, feng shui means "the way of the wind and water" or "the natural forces of the universe." People all over the world practice a form of feng shui. Europeans call it "geomancy," while Hawaiians and Native Americans practice their own form of feng shui. To organize your life using feng shui, it is helpful to learn more about the elements of our earth as well as the basic principles of feng shui.
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Home for the Holidays
By Natalie Caine
Dream your dreams. Help others feel at ease when they walk through your door but do not abandon yourself. Parents are making marketing lists from recipes and re-arranging colors in the house for the holidays.
I have a list below that might give everyone a heads up on this transition.
Children will come back from college, work, travel, their homes and some won't be able to make it. Winter break for college children can last for three to four weeks.
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Who's the REAL Turkey
By Georgia Richardson, Queen Jaw Jaw
What I can say about Thanksgiving that hasn't been said before? Do I mention the overeating, which I'm pretty sure is a law somewhere, or at least a requirement at my families table, or do I talk about family and the ties that gag-uh, I mean bind?
How about I tell you how every single year my family plots behind my back via cell phones and late night conversations to have me NOT COOK. It plays out the same, identical scenario, year after year. They haven't caught on yet that I don't even WANT to cook. Hello? I show up, eat, do a few dishes, and leave. What's not to like?
Continue reading at this link: More from Georgia
By Nan S. Russell
Involved in an expensive developmental workshop, Chad volunteered first when the facilitator queried the group about their objectives. It was the morning session of a weekend event that a friend of mine was conducting, and she'd asked me to sit-in. So, on a Saturday morning when I'd normally be sleeping, I found myself listening to Chad's frustrations about his lack of success, his inflexible boss, and his difficult coworkers.
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12 Secrets to Great Romance for the Rest of Your Life
By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. & James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
You can have great romance - real romance - for the rest of your life. And, it's easier than you think!
All you have to do is begin practicing the first of these ten steps. When you feel comfortable, add the next one that attracts you most. Before long you'll notice a difference in your confidence, self-respect, your capacity to give and receive love and, of course, the intimacy that makes it all worthwhile.
Continue reading at this link: More from Judith
Resume Writing and Interviewing
By Jan Cullinane
Are you older than 45? By 2010, the Bureau of Labor Statistics estimates that about one-third of the labor force will be comprised of "mature" workers (defined as over 45). If you are planning on returning to work during your retirement years, you may have to update (or dust off) your resume.
Don't feel obligated to list every job you've ever had; concentrate on those positions that are pertinent to the employment you are seeking. If you're looking to change careers, or if you're reentering the workforce after a hiatus, concentrate on the transferable skills applicable to the new position, and downplay job titles if necessary.
Continue reading at this link: More from Jan
Chocolat a Paris
By Carol Sorgen
Ah, Paris! Strolling along the Seine, window shopping on Avenue Montaigne, gazing at the Mona Lisa.. Sure, you can do all those things (and at some point, you should!). Moi, however? Well, on my most recent visit, I had another goal in mind--sample as many of Paris' legendary chocolate and pastry shops as I could (without making myself sick, or a candidate for the South Beach diet when I returned)!
I know, it was a tough assignment, but hey, I was up to the challenge. And it was all in the name of research, wasn't it?
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How to Stay Motivated!
By Janice Taylor
A few NABBW members, friends and even a family member have asked me, "What to do? How can I to stay motivated?" Ahhh--the $64 million question!
People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing -that's why we recommend it daily. ~ Zig Ziglar
There's your answer! Zig Ziglar said it best. We have to renew our enthusiasm, motivation, Joie de Vie on a daily basis! I sip my morning coffee and think about where I'm going, how I'm getting there, and then I read something that fires me up and carries me through the day. (Once in awhile it's something I wrote! Major thrill that day.)
Continue reading at this link: More from Janice
Amy Ammons Mullis
Mind Over Mullis
Amy's essay "The Greatest Gig on Earth" is included in A Cup of Comfort for Writers, published in September, and her romantic story of getting love right the second time around, "Some Like It Hot," appears in Chicken Soup for the Chocolate Lover's Soul, due out this month. You can join her as she tries to adjust to life "When the carseats are empty, but the nest is still full" at Mind Over Mullis
In "LOSS is inevitable, GRIEF is natural, HEALING is gradual" eighteen authors impart personal stories that span the journey from the pain of loss through the dark days of grief to the grace of healing. Buy it at www.lulu.com/content/1180337. Conceived and edited by Joanna Brandt, founder of Radiance Publishing, this book provides the support of a community of mourners to everyone who has experienced one of life's losses, from the end of a job to the death of a loved one.
Elizabeth Cassidy, CTACC
Creative Life and Career Coach
As the founder of Branching Out Life Coaching, Elizabeth supports and motivates her clients to uncover creative solutions to whatever is blocking them from going forward in their lives. By challenging and holding her clients accountable, Elizabeth's clients begin to tap into their own creativity and courage and develop plans to start their own business or change careers, paint in Paris for a year or shed those old tired layers of insecurity that are keeping them from leading an authentic life. For a Complimentary Coaching Consultation, please email Elizabeth at: BranchoutLife@optonline.net
was recently interviewed on the Christian Work At Home Moments podcast about her second novel,, One Little Secret. PLEASE CLICK HERE TO LISTEN TO THE INTERVIEW. She is the founder of www.boomerbabesrock.com.
Jan was interviewed by Rhett Palmer for his radio show (WFLA 1370). Her topic was The New Retirement based on her book which can be found at www.amazon.com
Leigh Anne Jashaway-Bryant
Looking for the perfect gift to honor and celebrate your girlfriends? In award-winning writer, Leigh Anne Jasheway-Bryant's new novel, Life is Funny: A Riveting Tale of Comedy, Hairdressing, and Texas Politics, friends help each other find true love, chase their dreams, recover from bad relationships, and run for governor! Filled with laughter and reminders of why girlfriends are so important in our lives, Life is Funny is available at www.accidentalcomic.com and www.amazon.com
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Meredith Laskow has finally finished her new writing website
www.meredithlaskow.com --- except for the last page, which is where YOU come in. I need more reciprocal links! If your website is writing-related, you'll be added to my Literary Links page. For non-writing links, you'll appear on the page Friends. Email , firstname.lastname@example.org. Of course, I'm still making my wonderful jewelry www.meredithbead.com. And just for NABBW members, I'm offering free regular worldwide shipping on all jewelry orders.
Lorena has two novels releasing in October. Your Chariot Awaits is Book #1 in her new Andi McConnell Mysteries series from Thomas Nelson. The Blue Moon , a trade-paperback size release of a book that originally came out in hardcover for the Guideposts book club. Both are available in many bookstores, or on the internet at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, etc.
Do you feel stuck, unfulfilled, overwhelmed? It's tough to know when and how to make a career change. Visit Marcia, the Transistion Chick at her site and let her help you on your path to making successful changes at midlife
Cyndi Norris RN
Komen Race for the Cure has been dear to her heart since losing her parents to cancer and watching her sister go through breast cancer. Cyndi has redirected her nursing career and now educates people about toxins in their homes and what they can do to decrease their own risks of cancer. She shops a Wellness company of toxin free products and has experienced the benefits of doing so. For more information on this, please email her at email@example.com
Carol D. O'Dell
Carol, author of Mothering Mother was interviewed by CNN. Enjoy this link to her interview.
Dr. Nancy D. O' Reilly
On Tuesdays, through January 22, 2008, at 2 PM EST/1PM Central/11 AM Pacific, Timeless WomenSpeak will feature expert guests and news for women about careers, health, finances, relationships, and growing older. A member of the American Psychological Association, she has more than 25 years of counseling experience. Her host page features live and archived shows. For the perfect gift, don't miss Dr. Nancy's Big Holiday Sale.
Connie Pombo, www.conniepombo.com,
Dana Hall, www.passionateforlife.com
Tell Your Story
Have you found your passion in life through pain, loss, or tragedy? Here is your opportunity to tell your story and inspire others. NABBW members, Connie Pombo, author, writer, speaker and Dana Hall, founder, editor of Passionate for Life online magazine, invite you to submit your story for their book, "Taking Flight: Living Life Passionately". Writers Guidelines. We look forward to hearing from you and reading your stories! Tell us NABBW sent you.
Patricia M Terrell
Following the release of her latest book, Songbirds are Free, and after completion of her 3-state book tour, Ms Terrell attended the annual BOOK EM festival in Waynesboro, VA, of which she is the co-founder. For more information, please visit www.pmterrell.com
Reading is one of my favorite pastimes. I enjoy sharing my reads with others. Here's what I read last month. Please email me if you can recommend any great books.
The Middle Place
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The Frugal Editor
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30 Days to Taming Your Stress
Deborah Smith Pegues
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For NABBW members, you can get the latest FREE issue of BeE Magazine using the promo link found at the Members Only section at the NABBW.
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10/01/2007 October Boomer Women's World